Black love can be hard to find, especially when you live and work in a metropolitan city like New York, Atlanta, or Chicago. There is a continous debate revolving around how Black women should go about finding their "Mr. Right.” Most would say dating is a game of cat and mouse, but the reality is it’s actually a game of strategy. Once you have the right strategy, you are one step closer to finding the man of your dreams. Here are 10 tips that will help any Black woman scoop her King and get that ring:

1) Define What You Want…
When seeking to accomplish goals in life, the most important variable to consider is "What do I really want?" One of the main reasons why dating can be so complicated is because the majority of females do not clearly define what they want. Do you want a husband, a boyfriend or a jump-off? In order to walk down the path towards love, a woman needs to know what she wants. When a woman has a clear definition of what she is looking for in a man, this saves her a lot of time and heartache caused by carousing with men who are not on the same page. Whatever your preference, knowing what you want will make dating a lot more enjoyable.

2) Have a Good Mouth Piece….
Once you have acknowledged what kind of relationship you want, the next important thing is a woman’s ability to spark up conversation. Have you ever been on a date and had nothing interesting to talk about? Right. The same rules apply to females and their need to be caught up on current world events, latest trends, or Creflo’s sermon last Saturday. It is imperative that there is an attempt to develop this skill-set because being a good conversationalist will automatically differentiate you from the competition. The ability to engage in a dynamic conversation makes a woman beguiling to men. The fact is, the majority of men are just as afraid of rejection as women are, and being a good conversationalist is a wonderful ice breaker that lightens the mood for everyone.

3) Leave on a Jet Plane
Traveling is one of the best ways to meet a man. When women are on vacation, there is a tendency to let a little loose (think When Stella got Her Groove Back). This makes a female much more receptive to meeting a man who would normally be overlooked in her day-to-day life. The possibility of making a love connection is heightened by the romantic setting and the lack of external distractions that prevent people from truly getting to know each other.

4) Go Out!
Going out is the most crucial step unless you are expecting to marry the UPS guy; otherwise you need to touch the town. We are not encouraging women to hit the clubs to meet the man of their dreams; there are 1001 places where single men hang out. They range from civic organizations to art galleries to house parties. The key is to be social and to participate in things you like, and every so often try something new. For instance, why not try salsa dancing? Salsa dancing allows you get hot and sweaty with a man for an entire hour. My point is to go out and be—social within reason.

5) Get a Good Wing-Woman
One of the most neglected dating tips is the importance of having a good girlfriend. Ladies, a good wing-woman is the difference between attracting Terrance "Baby Wipes" Howard or Denzel Washington. A Wing-woman is not only your sidekick for the night, but she will also deflect wack dudes from trying to spit game. Most women overdo it and have five wing-women with them when they go out, but know that this could potentially scare a good man off! All you need is one gal pal to get the evening going. If you have not noticed, most dudes roll in two’s so being a part of a platonic duo makes meeting men a little easier.

6) Roll Dolo
Can’t find a decent wing-woman? Another dating alternative to explore is going out solo. This is something women should do once in a blue moon. Most men are shy, but for some reason have all the confidence in the world when there is just one woman alone having a coffee or sipping a martini.

Not quite ready to go out solo? Ok, here is another trick that you can try. If you are going out with your girls, arrive 20 minutes early to the venue. This gives you time to scope out the scene and gives men an opportunity to buy you a round of drinks. Worse case scenario, you can build rapport with the bartender and get a couple of free drinks for the evening.

7) Hang Out in Different Circles
Tired of the same ‘ole folks? Try hanging out with a different group of friends. You know that co-worker who constantly invites you to her house parties but you never attend? Go! It is worth giving the experience a shot because the only person you will most likely know is the host. The host will be more than happy to introduce you to the cutest guy in the room in order to ensure that you are having a good time. These types of outings also allow you to be social in a relaxed environment.

Hit the Net
Don’t knock it until you have tried it. We live in an interconnected world where dating online is not a far-fetched idea anymore. The reality is not all women have a desire to be social butterflies, and not all men want one. The web is a viable tool that over the years has fostered the development of plenty of relationships and marriages. Here are a few websites that you might want to check out when you have a moment.
blacksingles.com
blackbeautydates.com
blackscene.com
chemistry.com
eharmony.com
match.com

9) Embrace Entertaining
Can’t go out? Bring the party to you. One of the best ways to meet people is by hosting gatherings. The catch is each of your friends should bring one person from a different circle. Hopefully your friends have good judgment and won’t invite any crazy folks. In any event, this is a great way to mix up the old with the new and increase the chances for a couple of love connections.

10) Be Balls-y
Finally, the most important tip here is to have some balls! I know that might seem weird for a female, but the point here is if you see something you like, go for it. We are not saying throw yourself at every man that walks by, but as a woman you are endowed with the natural gifts to command a man’s attention. Use those gifts and go get your man. You never know… your efforts could get you here: